Some time ago, Victoria Beckham posted a picture of her kissing her daughter Brooklyn on her lips and wishing her a happy birthday. This provoked a lively discussion in the comments as to whether it is acceptable or not. According to doctors, children should feel loved and safe in the family environment. But kissing on the lips is not the best idea to express parental love.
we have tried to understand why this way of expressing love is the subject of so much discussion and what is the opinion of child psychologists.
It can shift the kid’s understanding of personal boundaries.
Lips and mouth are the personal limits of a child’s body, as psychologist Charlotte Reznick explains. When you kiss a child on the lips, you show them that the border of their body is open and that someone can enter their territory without any problems.
This also includes tight swaddling, gavage, and aggressive tickling. Thus, invasive parents may increase the risk of their child developing a “victim syndrome” with the inability to say “no” and manage their own personal limitations.
Doctors, especially dentists, warn that there are a huge number of microbes in our mouths that cannot infect adults but can be passed on to children and do them a lot of harm. And because the child has a weaker immune system, Charlotte Reznick clarifies, some dangerous infections can enter their bodies through saliva.